I'm not a big fan of the quote, "Fake it until you make it."
I understand its importance, though, because it allows us to feel like we can do things we don't always know or understand by faking our talents or abilities.
The quote also gives us the space to be able to have the confidence to do the hard, scary things that we otherwise may struggle to do. When someone says "I'm just faking it til I make it," they're typically saying that they are acting as though they have the skills or the mindset already developed when in reality they know they don't. It builds self-assurance, and it allows people to navigate through the imposter syndrome they may feel.
But I'm not a fan, because we should be honest and real with where we are, our opportunities to develop, and where we exist on the growth curve.
With any role I have taken on, there of course are aspects of learning on the fly and trying to act like you know exactly what you're doing when in fact you don't.
Here's the thing — everyone is trying to figure it out every day.
I don't care if you're the CEO or the receptionist. We're all trying to figure it out in our own way.
Are we faking it? No. We're doing the best we can.
And the more willing you are to admit that you're learning as you go, the more likely you are to create space for growth.
Acknowledging that we're all learning as we go can be incredibly liberating. When we drop the pretense, we open up space for genuine growth, allowing ourselves to ask questions, seek guidance, and admit when we don't have all the answers. This openness not only benefits us individually but also fosters an environment of collaboration and shared learning. When people feel safe to express where they need support, the entire team grows stronger.
In contrast, constantly "faking it" can lead to burnout and disconnection. Pretending to have it all figured out can be exhausting, and over time, it builds a wall between you and those around you. By projecting an image of certainty, you may miss out on valuable feedback, advice, and opportunities to learn from others who have been through similar challenges. Authenticity isn't a weakness; it's a strength that allows others to trust and relate to you on a deeper level.
The reality is, everyone is navigating their own learning curve, and there is no finish line for self-improvement. When we approach our roles with humility and a willingness to grow, we create a foundation for long-term success. We are more adaptable, more receptive to feedback, and more resilient in the face of setbacks. Embracing a mindset of continuous learning makes us not only more skilled but also more fulfilled in our work.
Ultimately, "faking it" may get us through a few tough days, but honesty, openness, and a commitment to growth will take us much further. Rather than pretending to be something we're not, we should focus on evolving into the best versions of ourselves. This approach isn't about projecting an image — it's about embracing a journey, with all its uncertainties, challenges, and opportunities for true, lasting growth.